How My Pregnancy Changed Us.. =) (especially hubby)

       When I found out I was pregnant, I can't stop thinking of how my husband Nel would take the news. He was with me in the ER when the doctor confirmed my pregnancy. I was not so conscious about his reaction, because I was not able to control my own emotions. What I can remember is that he was playing the Itouch and just laughed at me when I cried. I was brought to the delivery room for another check up, and Nel was left outside. My mom and sister, who were very excited, went quickly to the hospital, and they were the ones who saw that smile on Nel's face.

I found him a bit silent though. And I felt like he wasn't ready yet. I was thinking that he must be worrying too much on how to raise a child, and how to provide for me while I'm still pregnant.

      My first trimester was really hard for me, and Nel. I can't do anything in the house. I wasn't able to do the things I used to do for him, like doing the grocery, laundry, etc. But I can still manage to cook for him sometimes. From my previous post "on being a wife", I said that we have encountered a lot of problems, but we got over it. I used to cry and get mad at Nel for doing things, that make it seems like he doesn't care about me and our baby, especially on my first trimester. He kept on repeating some mistakes that he had done from the past, that he swore he'd never do again. I felt like I made the wrong choice of marrying him and having him as my child's father. But, no matter the hardships that we had, and this pregnancy had brought me/us physically and emotionally, there are still amazing things that we had from this pregnancy.

       I love it when my husband remembers to prepare milk (ANMUM) for me. I think it tastes best when he was the one who prepared it, and tastes a little different when I prepared it for myself. =) I always wanted him to drink a part of it. He used to finish the milk for me, but he insisted lately, that I had to finish it myself.

       I love it when he speaks to our baby. He places his head near my tummy and rubs it with his hand. He often tells baby to make things easier for me. =)
 
       My husband is starting to show his "fatherly" love and character to me and baby. He used to not do things, unless was asked to do so. He needs to be reminded many times before he remembers to do important things.

       One day, he told me about this clinic very near our home, where we can have our check up instead of visiting our former doctor who is very far from here.  (We transferred house, so we needed to look for another doctor.) He knew the clinic hours and availability of the OB-Gynes. Well, that was new for me! =) I asked him, "So you mean you visited the clinic, you got in?", he answered, "Yes, why?", I just said nothing and smiled.

        Nel and I heard our baby's heartbeat last May 25 for the first time. I somehow felt like it changed us more as a couple. It's really a magical thing to think that there is a living thing inside my tummy. Nel expresses his excitement to come home from work, to see me and my tummy because he knows that our baby is just inside. I have seen him happier, he smiles more often (even when he's too tired and sleepy), and he has become more protective of me, to the point that he doesn't want me be exposed to people, whom he believes, might make me feel stressed. I didn't quite understand what he meant, but maybe these are people who smoke, say vulgar words, etc. Maybe he also meant, he doesn't want me to worry about the people around him when he's outside, at work, or anywhere? =) He said, baby can feel what I feel, hear what I hear, and think what I think.

       Yesterday, he also went to a nearby hospital with me and my sister to inquire about delivery packages, doctor's fee and room rates. hmmmm.. I can't explain, but the feeling is great. I used to do everything, ask everything, prepare everything, go to the bank and pay this and that for us (because he forgets to drop by the bank, and would make our payments late for its due date.. =)). He used to just say yes or no. But now, he is very much involved for our baby.

       Maybe, this is the time when a soon- to- be- mom would feel that pregnancy is really precious. Not just because you're literally pregnant, but because pregnancy would actually make changes (good ones), to both the husband and wife. Baby's heartbeat, is our inspiration now. It made us felt happier and positive each day. It truly made our bond stronger. And, from what I can see, Nel, would be a good, responsible father to our baby. HOPEFULLY! =) =) =) *wink*



     


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  1. Just got a text message... =) He checked some maternity and baby clothes... =) Just checked.. he didn't buy yet... It's the thought that counts. ;p

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  2. that's good to know that he's been better because of the baby.

    my ex and i actually had a 2-week separation before xmas of 2009. Then when we reconciled, i thought that maybe if we have a child, the separation didn't occur. So by January of 2010 I started going to St.Luke's for check-ups but again, we fought so nawalan ako ng gana. By June of 2010, we parted ways for good. Dun naman, I thought, ah maybe it is God's plan not to have a baby coz we'll go separate ways naman pala.

    Just sharing ;)

    keep on posting ur stories.. & god bless to ur baby & family.

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  3. hello sis.. Siguro nga what's been happening to you is God's plan. I believe in that. Ako nga, I did not expect that Nel would be my husband eh. Kasi I was in a long in term relationship before him. =) Just pray. When you've found the ONE, everything seems to be at the right place, kahit na napakadami niyong problems. Tapos lahat ng dadating sa buhay niyo, parang palaging right timing. Like, pregnancy. Db? dadating si baby mo sa tamang panahon. May kakilala ko, same as your story, dun siya sa bf niya nagka baby. She's 30 plus y/o na.

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    1. sana nga sis, i think positive this time. Actually, my goal is to have a baby before ako mag-30.. 25 pa lang ako now & medyo at the peak of my career so for now, steady lang ako. Hindi pa masyado eager to have a baby lalo na hindi pa stable si bf. Pero im still bothered kasi nga dun sa ex ko almost 5 years kaming trying pero wala talaga nabuo. Nakakatakot eh, ayoko tumanda na hindi nakabuo ng sarili kong baby. Adoption is okay but i want to have my own. Ah, bahala na si God... i hope na sa check up ko probably this July eh wala sila makitang malaking problema. I hope na curable yung sakin.

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    2. sis, bata ka pa... 26 lang ako... sinabihan ako ng dating doctor ko na before ako mag 24 dapat mabuntis nako. Pero tgnan mo naman, 3 months palang kaming kasal, nabuntis nako. I guess, si ex mo ay hindi pa yng right guy para maging daddy ng anak mo. =) Yung career ko before I got married, roving ako. Matagal nako pinipigilan kasi nga baka di ako mabuntis sa sobrang pagod ng katawan ko, pero nabuntis ako. Siguro, minsan yung sobrang pagiging conscious natin yung nagiging problema. Kapag inisip mo na "kailangan mabuntis ako",siguro mas hindi effective yun. I'd go straight to the point ha. advise kasi sakin, ienjoy lang namin ni hubby ang isa't isa, i'm talking about habang nagmmake love kayo. kasi, kung pressured yung isip mo na mabuntis ka dapat, it won't work. Kailangan LOVE tlga... =)

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    3. hehe, yeah tama sis. Enjoyin dapat talaga para mas makabuo di ba. Dito naman sa bf ko eh wala pako pressure, for now eh pareho pa kami hindi ready pero one time sabi niya he'll give me a child daw. Gusto niya after niya matapos yung dentistry niya. I guess u already know that he's a foreigner. Nway, he's studying in UE and 3-4 years pa siya mag-aaral so steady lang kami ngayon. Nakakalungkot lang minsan when i see a lot of baby news on my FB wall, i feel jealous kasi parang sa circle of friends ko & batchmates eh ang dami nang nabubuntis. Naisip ko pa nga one time na kung nakabuo siguro kami dati eh meron nako nag-aaral sa kinder ngayon, hehe.

      Btw, bf's arriving na today from Persia so im one happy girl na naman ;)

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    4. sis, nakita ko nga sa posts mo... =) I'm happy for you.. basta wag ka papressure sa nakikita mo na mga batchmates and friends mo may mga baby na... Isipin mo nalang, God has other plans for you pa. =)

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    5. i will.. thanks sis ;)
      steady lang kami ngayon.. go with the flow lang muna.. basta next month papa-check up nako ;)

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  4. eka, herbal is a must take by any woman trying to get pregnant. I was devastated and so was my husband after being told by my fertility specialist at age 38 that I had no option but to consider adoption or donor eggs (according to my doctor I was out of eggs and gave me 4% chance of getting pregnant and a 2% chance of carrying a baby to full term). After much research and dozens of hours reading infertility related articles and posts online, I have found your email (dreka14demons@gmail.com)! I never believed in anything alternative to western medicine and thought all the other stuff like Chinese medicine was a hoax. But I was soon glad to be wrong as I followed your the guidelines given to me as soon as you cast on me pregnancy spell and send to me your natural herbals. After one month of trying I became pregnant and had a beautiful healthy boy. Nine months after that I did everything you told me again and after 2 months of trying I got pregnant again and gave birth to another perfect little boy. I would recommend anyone with an open mind to contact eka on (dreka14demons@gmail.com). It just might be the answer to your prayers. Thank you for everything you have done for me, EKA!"

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